The older David and I get, the fewer things we want. We stopped giving each other gifts (birthday, anniversary, Christmas) more than 10 years ago. Instead we enjoy experiences -like travel!
We asked our children in 2008 if they would consider giving (to others) instead of receiving that Christmas. At 6,8,10,12,& 14, they actually tried it! That lead to a complete overhaul from piles of presents. Now we play games each holiday like White Elephant and Dirty Santa, that include money prizes, treats and gift cards for silly competitions.
The phase out of presents also came with a promised summer beach trip. A tradition my parents held, like their parents. We’ve done our best to keep it going even when our growing number had to share tight quarters. Whatever it takes to play in the waves and chase crabs on the beach.
Memories of experiences seem to last a lot longer than gifts that grow old and need replacing. Toys, clothing, nic-nacs… nothing beats a big group game where we laugh so hard you can’t breathe, or everyone standing in the kitchen eating fresh batches of David’s fried catfish & mushrooms, until the pies come out of the oven. Even a long drive for all of us to go and stay with relatives is better than any new purse! ❤️
Togetherness has become our constant goal. And it’s been a win, win in keeping us connected. That’s about all I want more of: this family and maybe a little ocean time.
