I heard it takes about 30 days to exchange a positive habit for a negative one. Exercise, eating habits, word choices, work ethics, attitudes. I used to play and replay negative mental recordings in my head. I would put myself down, cut myself up, was brutally critical. I never shared these with anyone until I met my husband. He was horrified, and helped me change God’s thoughts and his thoughts for my crippling ones. But it took time.
It was my husband’s persistent, unconditional love that really helped. I needed accountability. Like any addict, I would quickly revert to old habits. His constant use of God’s words began to change my thinking patterns. He was so very long-suffering those first months married, we’ve joked that he saved us 1000’s of dollars in counseling! God knew I needed a tangible person -speaking His Word- directly to me.
What a blessing to marry someone I could fully trust. What started as a daily struggle taking every thought captive came more and more easily. I eventually learned which situations caused me the greatest struggle and avoided them… like the plague! It took more than 30 days to get it on remote control, but totally with the effort.
It is possible to change. Accountability is key. And love. And God’s rich word. There is freedom like I never expected. God bless ALL the long-suffering, loving, encouraging spouses out there. Don’t give up! Hang in there a new habit awaits.
ForGlorysake! –Anna
